On October 22nd, my baby girl Alex was found lifeless in a park due to a self- inflicted gunshot. She came into this world to forge a new path and open the minds of those who rejected the LGBTQ community, as well as those within the community who turned against each other. She understood that this journey was difficult, unfair, and filled with heartbreak and suffering, yet she chose to push forward.
I envision her as a bull in a Spanish bullfight. Like the bull, she kept running and fighting even as the torero and his assistants inflicted wounds upon her. Ultimately, the final sword pierced her heart, tearing apart the three components of her being: her body, her soul, and her spirit. At that moment, everything was broken, and she took her last breath. I hope, with a sincere and heavy heart, that this event won’t be in vain. I wish that, with her passing, others will realize that when we leave this 3D dimension and earthly life, it won’t matter what our gender, race, social status, or beliefs are. Where we are headed, there are no such titles; it is a place of love and happiness. We are all connected and come from the same source. I will miss her so much, I will miss her saying or texting “I love you, Mom”. I am glad I could save some of the messages she left, I will be able to hear her physically which will give me comfort or a reason to cry when I am alone. Either way, it will help me to stay strong.
深雪 Brean
I’m so sorry!
Beautifully written obituary.
Miyuki, I just found out about the passing of your lovely Allyson and my heart goes out to you. Know that my thoughts and prayers surround you at this very difficult time.
Thank you Rosa
Amiga Alex ya está feliz en algún lugar hermoso con sus seres queridos
Abrazos ..te quiero mucho amiga
Baby, I am so sorry for your loss. Our loss. Only time will help with the healing, knowing Alex is where she wanted to be, in a better and peaceful place. We will always remember her. Love you.
Miyuki, I have no words. I can’t imagine the pain. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. I’m glad that you can all be together, during this difficult time. Now she will live in your hearts forever. I love you all.
Akek Akek
I have so many nice memories… I had the best time when I babysat you in St. Louis.
We were always together and played and laughed all the time.
That is the way you will always be in my heart.
I know you were hurting these last years, and I just hope you found the freedom and peace you were looking for.
I am happy I was lucky enough to be your Tia Tia.
I will always love you, and I am sure we will see each other again.
Miyuki te acompaño en este momento tan difícil, se q tu eres muy fuerte y llevaras a Alex en tu corazón .
Alex estuvo muy feliz de haber sido tu hija
Les mando un fuerte abrazo para tu y toda tu familia!!!!
Miyuki, no tengo palabras, solo mi presencia desde donde me encuentro, todo mi cariño y calidez para toda tu familia y por supuesto un abrazo al cielo y mucha ternura para Alex. Siento mucho el dolor que sientes de estar pasando por tu gran perdida y quisiera poder hacer más. Me consuela saber que seguro Steve la está abrazando mucho y le da todo su amor
Te quierooo!!! Besos y abrazos
Akekuchon,
I will miss you and love you always. Thank you for being part of the family. You were able to reunite the Uno family after many years. Now it’s your time to be free.
Aboby, Wacas.
Love you Tio Kenji
Akek Akek
I have so many nice memories… I had the best time when I babysat you in St. Louis.
We were always together and played and laughed all the time.
That is the way you will always be in my heart.
I know you were hurting these last years, and I just hope you found the freedom and peace you were looking for.
I am happy I was lucky enough to be your Tia Tia.
I will always love you, and I am sure we will see each other again.
Te busca mi corazón.
Sin conocerte en persona, te conocí a través de las historias de alegrías, estudios, cambios y combates que me compartieron.
¿Qué puedo saber yo? Si sólo soy una mamá. Tal vez por eso entendí la preocupación de tu madre, por los senderos que tuviste que caminar.
Recibe el abrazo que tenía guardado para ti, que me quedé sin darte y que ahora, rodeándote con mis brazos te lo doy.
Te busca mi corazón, y te encuentra hoy en silencio y paz.
My heart seeks you.
Without knowing you in person, I got to know you through the stories of joys, studies, changes and battles that they shared with me.
What can I know? If I’m just a mom. Maybe that’s why I understood your mother’s concern, about the paths you had to walk.
Receive the hug that I had saved for you, that I was left without giving you and that now, surrounding you with my arms, I give it to you.
My heart seeks you, and finds you today in silence and peace.
I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. Please accept my deepest condolences during this incredibly difficult time. I hope you can find comfort in knowing that she lived true to herself, a journey that takes such courage and strength. Her light, love, and memory will always be with you, and I hope you can lean on those who care about you. I’m keeping you and your family in my thoughts, sending you all the strength, love, and peace you may need to get through this time.
Akek
You were part of my life since Tia Rika become my life. She was the way I knew you and she loves you so much that is not possible not to love you. I know the hard times you passed through those last years, and I know now you will find your peace. And to Myuki,you are family, my famy, so hope our warmth will help you. Akek was and will be loved by all of us.
Alex,
I never got to know you properly but you were still someone I deeply cared about.
I know things were hard on you, and although we all miss you– hopefully the weight has now lifted from your shoulders.
I remember still the many times people would tell me that you and I shared many similarities, and I was and still am proud to have been similar to someone as strong as you.
I looked up to you, I still do, and I always will. I don’t need to have had talked to you to know you were someone to be extremely proud of.
I hope you’re okay, and happy. In the meantime, we’ll all live in order to make you as proud as possible. You will always be loved, so keep on being wonderful wherever you are.
Thank you for being you, and for being part of everyone’s lives.
I love you always,
Xiadani
Miyuki what beautiful words. Thank you for sharing your heart and your life with so many. Alex was sweet and kind and will be greatly missed.
My heart is broken for you. I’m so sorry she left this world so young. I love you and I’m praying for you to find peace during this difficult time.
I’m out of words to express how sad I feel about the loss of a precious child struggling to fit in this imperfect world and trying to make it better for everyone. Good thing is at least she’s free of this mundane hypocrisy and on a higher dimension reserved only for the good souls. Always with you my Miyu. Tío A.
We’ve never met, but I feel compelled to let you know that my heart aches with yours. I am deeply sorry for your unimaginable loss. I wish you peace and comfort in the days ahead. You are not alone.
Allyson left our world far too soon. Her brave struggle to be herself in a soldiers uniform and to protect our country should be acknowledged with great admiration and respect. I truly hope her struggle will not be forgotten for it was valiant.
My heart breaks for all who miss her now, I hope that the wonderful memories that remain keep you strong during the healing journey.
She was a special kind of woman warrior and I know her streuwill live on to help others who choose to fight the good fight.
With great sympathy and compassion,
Terri Peters Windley
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your precious daughter. I hope you find comfort in knowing that she was so courageous, a true fighter, and that her very existence and choice to live openly and proudly was inspirational to people all around her and you. The world can be exhausting, and I believe that she will now find peace. I pray that you, too, can find peace knowing that she leaves behind a legacy for others in the LGBTQ community, that her name will be honored and cherished. May her memory always be a blessing to you.
Thank you Allyson for your service to this country and for your bravery. You have helped so many families and soldiers. I am sorry to hear your light is no longer beaming. You will be remembered. You will be honored. Rest knowing you made a difference in the world.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your daughter will not be forgotten.
Dicono che quando una persona ha compiuto la sua missione su questa terra se ne va. Sicuramente la prima missione di Alek era quella di amare la sua bellissima famiglia e poi forse anche quella di fare capire a molte persone che siamo tutti uguali senza distinzione di genere e che accettare è la cosa più normale e bella che si possa fare. Sono sicura che anche da dove si trova adesso veglierà sempre sulla sua famiglia e gli darà la forza di andare avanti. Buon viaggio anima bella. Un abbraccio a tutta la tua famiglia.
The unnatural act of burying a child is the saddest things a parent can go through. Your girl was brave, talented, beautiful and strong. I hope your memories of her can carry you through this dark time. I am so, so sorry for the loss we all feel.
I am so deeply sorry for your loss.
I’m deeply sorry for your loss and sending my condolences. I was a nurse for Sidney from time to time at the VA. She was such a sweet person and I would always ask her “you good” and she would say yes I am alright, everything is good. This was very hard for me when I heard the news last month. Stay encouraged! She has her wings now to fly.
I would like to extend my condolences for the loss of your daughter Alex. But in the short time we conversed she shared some photos she had taken at the airsoft field she frequented, and an idea she had for a short film she wanted to make. She had a fine eye for photography, and videography and the talent she showed will surely be missed. I wish I had more time to get to know her, again my sympathies in this hard time.
Rich